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Can I marry someone of a different race?

There are many circumstances which bring extra difficulties to a marriage – difference of race or culture, difference of education or ability, marked difference in social background, wide disparity in age, etc. It is really the choice of the couple themselves.

There is only one marriage relationship which is forbidden by God. God's people are forbidden to marry those who do not believe.

We can see the wisdom in this. God intends marriage to be a permanent relationship for the ultimate, mutual benefit of both. Anyone who believes in God and truly wants to serve Him, cannot find real fulfillment and happiness with one who does not. Their spiritual growth will be greatly hampered.

2 Corinthians 6 says:
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
Marriage is surely the closest "yoking together" possible.

1 Corinthians 7:39 is very much on the subject.
"A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord."

Corinth was a very cosmopolitan city. The church there was made up of Jews and Gentiles of many different races. So, it is very significant that it was to the church at Corinth, that this instruction was given! Race is not mentioned.

In Old Testament times, the people of Israel were forbidden to marry those of the surrounding nations. Deuteronomy 7 says 3.
"Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, 4. for they will turn your sons away from following me to serve other gods, and the Lord's anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you."

Notice carefully the reason given. It was not a matter of genetics or culture, but of religion. The people of the surrounding nations were idolaters. Where individuals did come to believe they were fully accepted and married Israelites. For example Rahab, a Canaanite, and Ruth a Moabite, appear in the ancestry of Jesus himself. Matthew 1 verse 5.

So we have a consistent picture. In Old Testament times God was working with one nation - the Jews, and so His people were forbidden to marry those who did not believe in the living God. Today the Gospel goes to all nations and the only restriction on choice of marriage partner is "only in the Lord".



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# Robert 2014-11-07 17:33
What about 1 Cor. 7
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

You neglected to mention verse 13, which means that either she married an unbeliever or she became a believer and her husband did not.
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# jason young 2014-11-15 14:33
Quoting Robert:
What about 1 Cor. 7
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

You neglected to mention verse 13, which means that either she married an unbeliever or she became a believer and her husband did not.


Hi Robert,
We thank you for your comment. The original article was in response to specific question and not intended to cover every aspect.
In 1 Corinthians 7:13 Paul is probably referring to those that had married before coming to the knowledge of Jesus, for most of the believers were Gentiles (1 Cor. 12:2) [ESV: pagans] and, unlike Jews who knew they had to marry those of like-faith (Deut. 7:3–4), they would be unaware that Christians—unti l they were themselves Christian—were to be similarly restrained in their selection of partners. Paul specifically stressed this limitation a little later in the same chapter.
“A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39
So for a more complete answer, there is no restriction on marrying someone of a different race, provided they, too, have valid belief in the Lord Jesus and his Father.
Regards,
Jason
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